Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ by Daniel Goleman

Key Takeaways

1. Resisting impulse is the root of all self-control. This was stressed a dozen different ways and those who have better impulse control tend to be emotionally more stable, smarter, more successful…marshmallow test

2. People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for failure, ascribing it to some lasting characteristic they are helpless to change.

3. Coordination of moods is the essence of rapport

4. Those who had a dependable web of intimacy showed no relationship whatsoever between high stress levels and death rates

5. Fundamentals of EI (can be summed up with competency)

6. Self-awareness – know what you are feeling and why

7. Self-management (ability to motivate oneself/persistence)

8. Social awareness

9. Ability to manage relationships